PAGE 11 - STOP TRYING TO CONTROL OTHERS
.....The Law of Cause and Effect reigns supreme on our life. This being true, it seems that instead of trying to control others for our happiness, we should be trying to control the thoughts we hold in our conscious mind. Positive thoughts and feelings invite unity. Negative thoughts and feelings invite isolation. The good news is we always have the choice to choose between love and unity or fear and isolation
.....The more emotionally involved we are in trying to get others to change, the more we fail to realize that the only person we can really change is our self.
.....The more accepting you become of yourself, the more you can see others in the same light. Dr. Joan Borysenco invites us to, "See people for who they are instead of who you want them to be. Then accept them as they are rather than judging them for who they are not." We may see that someone would be happier if they would change, but, we need to understand that it's much better for us to allow them to change in their own way and at their own speed without our help. And, as we do, we no longer feel that
we are the one who is responsible for making that change in them. When we arrive at this place in our understanding, we move forward in life with more ease. We become more open, more receptive and more able to gain further understanding and knowledge. We are more tolerant and accepting of the experiences and challenges that are necessary for our growth.
.....If we want our mate to change, first we must love them the way they are. Then the space for change is created.
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